Monday, November 9, 2015
The 6 Assassins of A Man's Contentment by Darrin Patrick
You have enemies as you try to live as a content man.
Most of the time we think the enemies are from without—people around us and
circumstances upon us. But the true enemies of contentment are within in us,
which is where contentment is either fed or starved. At the heart of
contentment is an embrace of the present and a willingness to enjoy the good
things we have right now. These enemies distract us from the present and prompt
us to either idolize or demonize our past and future. We either worship or hate
the past or future, but doing so makes it impossible to embrace the glory of
the contented life.
The following 6 assassins are at work within you to
destroy your enjoyment of the life God has given you...
1. Regret
Sometimes we should regret things. If we make bad
decisions, if we hurt other people, we need to acknowledge our mistakes and
feel their weight. But some men allow their regrets to turn into a cancer of
self-loathing that undermines their ability to make balanced and healthy
stories out of their lives.
2. Nostalgia
In the words of Don Draper, nostalgia is “delicate, but
potent. It’s a twinge in your heart, far more powerful than memory alone.” It
recalls to mind the successes and joys of the past, while suffocating our
ability to enjoy the present. Our lives can never escape the unrealistic burden
of having to measure where we are now according to a standard set a year or
decade ago.
3. Fear
Some people are so consumed by their fear of what will
come tomorrow that they are paralyzed today. They worry that if they enjoy
something too much, they will be devastated if it goes away. As a result, they
are always hedging their bets, always pulling back at the last second from the
edge of truly enjoying life. Their fear becomes a self-fulfilling cycle of
discontentment.
4. Vision
To have vision for the future is a good thing, but some
men become blind to the present. They can’t appreciate what they have now
because they’re waiting to achieve the goals that will finally turn their life
around. These men are greyhounds chasing the rabbit around a track with no
finish line.
5. Multitasking
Multitasking spreads our attention across many
activities, but keeps us from fully engaging any of them. There is no sense of
completion for the multitasker because there is always something undone. When
we multitask we don’t give ourselves fully to anything. Instead, we give some
of ourselves to everything. This nullifies the reward of seeing one thing to
the end.
6. Hurriedness
Busyness is doing all the things that we are responsible
for, but hurriedness is the frantic mental and emotional state we experience
that accompanies our busyness. Hurried people can’t celebrate (which is the
secret sauce of contentment) because they are focused on the next thing on
their to-do list.
These assassins are deadly because they hide in the inner
recesses of our hearts and enable us to have a certain degree of productivity.
But the victory is short-lived.
Contentment is the fuel for a life well-lived
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